Achieving your goals has little meaning unless it results in increased well-being and happiness. To help you develop a specific plan to nurture PERMA (positive emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, and accomplishments), I offer a free set of worksheets. Click the button in the upper right hand corner “DOWNLOAD GUIDE TO WELL-BEING” to download the worksheets and in-depth explanation of PERMA.
Faking a smile, putting on a brave face, and the like are all pretty useless when it comes to living a life of actual well-being. If you want a healthy mind and body, you have to nurture them, which means making sure your habits and routines refresh you and build on your self-esteem.
Seeking to feel positive emotions is about increasing health, broadening your perspectives, improving relationships, and even extending your life expectancy.
While self-reflection is good, there are also times to be fully in the “flow” of our lives, being thoroughly a part of what we’re doing. In such a state, we can lose track of time, full concentration is easy, and our worries fade into the background. For some, getting into such a state is difficult, and for others it is simple. But for everyone, it’s important. This is when our experiences become part of our identity.
It’s both common sense and a conclusion of scientific research that healthy relationships with other people improve our happiness and well-being. So, what is a healthy relationship? It’s one where both parties pay attention to what the other one wants, where you support each other in your life goals and in your recovery from setbacks and trauma. It’s a mutual exchange that combats feelings of being alone, of being isolated. Healthy relationships are about connection.
Most people foster a sense of well-being by dedicating some of themselves to a higher purpose, whether it’s God, random acts of kindness, or faith in humanity. I encourage you to look for meaning in the faith-based part of your life. Volunteering some time to help others will replenish your spirit, regardless of your faith, because it makes us part of a larger caring community when we help others.
This goes back to the blog post on celebrating one’s accomplishment in times of success, but there is more to it. You have been reading these posts because you believe in the value of setting your goals. Now, I ask you to believe also in the feeling of accomplishment itself and in the way it feeds your energy and sense of purpose.
It seems a part of human nature to feel satisfaction from initiating positive change. You know you’re doing it right when you succeed, feel the joy of that success, and then are motivated to greater success by that same joy.
Several studies have shown that people have a tendency to wither, even die, when they no longer feel a sense of purpose in their lives. The kind of goals you can achieve are not limited by your career, your youth, or your income. As long as you desire success, you can search out its many forms and continue to generate happiness throughout your life.
I encourage you to download the worksheets and begin today to nurture PERMA – the science based approach to increasing happiness and well-being.