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I’m Too Agreeable, and Sometimes That Is a Problem

DISCIPLINE STRATEGY® Blog by Timothy L. Coomer, PhD

Lessons on applying scientific research to solve real-life challenges within a framework called DISCIPLINE: [Decide] [Investigate] [Sort] [Conceive] [Implement] [Persevere] [Loop] [Intensify] [Notice] [Enjoy]

I’m Too Agreeable, and Sometimes That Is a Problem

Are you open to new experiences and ideas? How agreeable are you? Do you feel indecisive at the very moment you need to make a decision? Or, do you make better decisions when in a high-pressure situation?

Knowing the answers to these questions and understanding YOUR personality will increase YOUR ability to set goals and reach them. For me, I gained beneficial information when I analyzed my personality. One critical revelation was my high level of Agreeableness – I’ll spare you the details – but it explains some challenges I sometimes face.

I am a personality researcher and am fascinated by how personality traits predict behavior. That fascination fueled my desire to develop a unique type of personality assessment. The MyPersonality® assessment uses a HEXACO based model to measure six main personality traits and twenty-four sub-traits. But, unlike other personality models, the measurements are then used to predict behavior in a variety of decision making and change scenarios.

I designed this assessment to support the change & goal achievement process I teach in my forthcoming book, Discipline Strategy® (Amazon bit.ly/_DS).

Below is an explanation of the six main traits in the HEXACO model and the twenty-four sub-traits.


Somewhat new to the personality scene, Honesty-Humility provides new insights into what makes us tick. People high in Honesty-Humility are very straightforward rule-followers who don’t want undue attention and do not attempt to manipulate others. They are not impressed by or desire the trappings of wealth and do not seek social status. These are down-to-earth people. Someone low in Honesty-Humility will do just about anything to gain wealth and status. If these people need to break a rule to get what they want, they will do it. If they need to flatter someone to motivate them to do what they want, then they will lavish the flattery. A good con man will be low in Honesty-Humility.

Honesty-Humility sub-traits

Sincerity measures your tendency to be honest and straightforward in your relationship with others.

Fairness measures your commitment to following the rules and treating everyone in a similar fashion despite the balance of power.

Greed Avoidance measures the degree to which you are interested in wealth, luxury items, and social status.

Modesty measures how you view yourself compared to others (superior or equal) and whether you feel that you deserve some type of special treatment.


Highly emotional people feel stress easily, want emotional support from others, and fear physical danger more than others. People who score low on Emotionality tend to operate well in stressful situations, don’t mind dangerous situations, and tend not to require emotional support from others or to sense a need to share their feelings.

Emotionality sub-traits

Fearfulness measures the tendency to fear situations that may introduce personal harm or the risk of injury.

Anxiety measures how easily you become anxious in certain situations.

Dependence measures how much emotional support you typically want from others.

Sentimentality measures the degree to which you develop and feel strong emotional bonds.


Perhaps the best-known of the personality traits, Extraversion measures how you react to public situations and other people. High scorers are energized by other people; they are the “life of the party” and feel comfortable speaking to large groups. Low scorers are energized by time alone and can find large groups draining and exhausting. Low scorers do not feel socially confident and tend to avoid public speeches and large groups.

Extraversion sub-traits

Social Self-Esteem measures how you tend to view yourself in social situations—either as a popular person, a “loser,” or somewhere in between.

Social Boldness measures how confident you tend to be in social settings.

Sociability measures how much you enjoy socializing, talking with others, or interacting at a party.

Liveliness measures how energetic and enthusiastic you tend to be in social settings.


Agreeable people don’t ever seem to get angry. They forgive and make up quickly; they are quick to compromise and tend not to judge others harshly. Low scorers are a bear to live with. They are quickly angered and stubborn, and they find lots of things to criticize. If you cross someone who is low in Agreeableness, that person may hold a grudge for a long time.

Agreeableness sub-traits

Forgivingness measures how easily you can forgive and forget after an incident where someone has caused you harm.

Gentleness measures how you respond to others, whether with harsh judgment or kindness and leniency.

Flexibility measures your degree of stubbornness and whether you can compromise in your dealings with others.

Patience measures where your tipping point is between a calm response or one of anger.


This trait is the one you want to look for in employees if you run a business. Workers high in Conscientiousness are diligent, organized, and predictable; they show up on time and reach their goals. People low in Conscientiousness have problems with lack of follow-through, failure to meet deadlines, lack of attention to detail, and poor habits and decisions.

Conscientiousness sub-traits

Organization measures your tendency to desire order in your surroundings.

Diligence measures how hard you tend to work and your “stick-to-it-iveness.”

Perfectionism measures your attention to detail and tolerance for errors or mistakes.

Prudence measures where you are between being impulsive and deliberate.

Openness to Experience

People high in Openness to Experience tend to love visiting art museums, enjoy the outdoors and nature, and seek new experiences and new people. They tend to use their imagination and creativity and appreciate the process of exploration. People low in Openness to Experience have little interest in art or their own creative pursuits. They tend to lack an inquisitive nature or to seek novel experiences. They certainly are not rebels and do not entertain unconventional thoughts.

Openness to Experience sub-traits

Aesthetic Appreciation measures the extent to which you enjoy and appreciate the beauty that can be found in nature and art.

Inquisitiveness measures your curiosity about the world and the people around you.

Creativity measures how often you tend to use new ideas and information and express them in unique ways.

Unconventionality measures your openness to unusual ideas and ways of being.

The Basis of Prediction

These personality measurements are valuable by themselves. But, to make this information more actionable, I use them to answer a set of questions. Using advanced mathematical modeling, data, and additional research findings from hundreds of studies, I predict a performance response to the following questions.


Decision making involves many mental processes that are influenced by your personality and the way you think. Understanding your unique personality will help you make better and more informed decisions. Here are some insights based on how you responded to the MyPersonality® assessment.

Q. Are you an organized decision maker who has self-discipline and deliberates on decisions with careful thought?

Measurement: Orderly, Self-disciplined, able to deliberate effectively

Measurement: Peaceful, calm, “best mind”

Measurement: Openness

Q. Are you vulnerable to indecisiveness?

Measurement: Vulnerability to indecisiveness

Q. How much of a risk taker are you?

Measurement: Tendency to Take Risks

Q. Do you choke under pressure? Your personality can help predict whether your decision-making abilities deteriorate or improve under pressure. Knowing this may help you plan the best time and condition for your decision making.

Measurement: Decision making quality under low-pressure and high-pressure scenarios


The steps of investigating and researching, sorting the information you find, and then conceiving a plan will be impacted by a set of personality sub-traits. The information below reflects scores on various traits that MyPersonality® combines in a proprietary manner to help you anticipate challenges and compensate as needed.

Q. Will you be a good investigator as you gather information about your decision and build your knowledge base?

Measurement: Investigative Skills

Q. How effective will you be in sorting and organizing all the information from your investigation to build your knowledge base?

Measurement: Sorting and Organizing Information

Q. How effective will you be at conceiving a plan, based on your decision and knowledge base, that will provide a roadmap to your goal?

Measurement: Conceiving a Plan


Once you have conceived your plan, you are ready to implement it and fortified to persevere through challenges. After gaining some early experience, you will loop back in the process to tweak and improve your plan and processes. Then you will be ready for a period of intensity to push hard toward your goal. Your personality will influence how you handle each of these four steps.

Q. Will you effectively translate the plan you have conceived into an actionable roadmap that you will implement effectively?

Measurement: Implementation Skill

Q. What is your capacity for perseverance and grit?

Measurement: Perseverance and Grit

Q. What is your vulnerability to burnout?

Measurement: Burnout Vulnerability

Q. What is your capacity for intensity?

Measurement: Capacity for Intensity

Why Does All of This Matter?

Knowing yourself and understanding your strengths and weaknesses allows you to better leverage your strengths and compensate for your weaknesses. My purpose with the MyPersonality® assessment and the DISCIPLINE STRATEGY book is:

1) Give you a tool that provides new and useful personal insight.

2) Teach you a process that will take you from decision to accomplishment.

If you have any questions, please feel free to reply to this email. I will get back to you as quickly as I can. Remember, 2020 is just around the corner. Start now thinking about a new direction. It all starts with a decision!

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